Let me first start by saying that this post is solely made up of my opinions, my point of view, and my perspective and I am entitled to that. Clearly, this is a very controversial topic in this country on a moral, religious, and a political level. I encourage you to read this post with an open mind and a kind heart and not attack me for my opinions; just as I will not attack anyone for theirs.
There are so many misguided opinions about the Pro-Choice movement. So many wrongly assume that if someone is Pro-Choice, they are pro-killing fetuses or in support of using abortion as a consistent birth control method. That is not the case. I haven’t heard of a single Pro-Choice person who has an attitude of, “Woo hoo! Let’s kill fetuses.”
For me, being Pro-Choice means that I am in support of a woman having control over her own body, not the government. I am exactly what it says, in support of my right to choose and being able to exercise that right when it comes to whether or not I want to have a baby. Why should the government decide what I can and cannot do with my body? If you don’t want to get an abortion, then don’t. No one is saying you have to, I just want the right to have one if I choose to.
Religious groups are the worst sometimes, preaching that it is against religion to have an abortion. Again I say, if it’s against your religion, don’t get one. The church shouldn’t decide what I can and can’t do with my body. It’s my body, therefore it should be my choice. Church and religion dictates enough about what people can and can’t do. It needs to stay out of my uterus!
We have a separation of church and state. I think we need to create the separation of church, state, and body! What’s next? Is the government and/or the church going to say it should be against the law to get tattoos because it alters the natural skin we were born with? Or maybe we can’t dye our hair for the same reason? Piercings should be outlawed too because we weren’t born with holes in those places. How about preventative mastectomies? We will just have to live with the fact that we carry the BRCA gene and getting breast cancer is part of ‘god’s plan’. What a crock of shit!
Reversing Roe v. Wade would be a mistake on so many levels. What about a woman who is raped? Should she be forced to carry someone’s baby who is sick mentally? A baby that was created out of an act of hate? I know there are some who think, it’s not the baby’s fault so why punish the baby? I say, why punish the woman? Why make her carry something that was created during an act of violence when it could easily be taken care of? Most people who think it is wrong to terminate the pregnancy of a rape have obviously never been raped. Who wants a nine month reminder that you were attacked and forced to have sex against your will? I know I wouldn’t.
Then there’s the situation when carrying a pregnancy to term would endanger the life of the woman. So that shouldn’t be allowed either? Ridiculous! What if the woman is already a mother and has 3 other children? Is that fair that she should deprive her other children of growing up without their mother? What about a baby that will not live once born? Should a mother carry that pregnancy to term when the baby has no chance of surviving? It would be impossible to carry the baby and not bond with it. Then she has to go through the birth process, which is far from easy, only to know that the baby will die. It sounds like torture.
I am a mother of two wonderful little boys. Having my children changed my life for the better and I love being a mom. BUT… I was ready to become a mother. I was married, had my career in order, and my husband and I made the decision together to get pregnant. It doesn’t happen this way for everyone. If we overturn Roe v. Wade then we are essentially forcing women to have babies when they aren’t ready to do so. Yes, adoption is an option if you don’t want to keep the baby, but some women don’t want to have to be pregnant.
I’m not suggesting abortion should be a method of birth control, but we should be able to choose to have one if we want or need to. Let’s remember that no birth control is 100% effective unless you completely abstain from sex. What about the responsible woman who knows she is not ready to get pregnant, takes the necessary precautions, but then her birth control fails. Should she be forced to remain pregnant because the government says she has to? No one should be forced to do anything they don’t want to do!
The religious side of it says that abortion is wrong because life begins at conception. There is no scientific evidence to support this. This is just religious opinion, yet politicians use it as their guide as to whether or not they are Pro-Choice or Pro-Life. There’s that church creeping into state again. Politicians letting their personal religious beliefs decide what is best for women! In my opinion, life doesn’t begin at conception because a zygote cannot live outside of the womb. How can we say something is living if it can’t actually live without being in the uterus? But, if that is what you believe then that’s fine. Then you, too, can exercise your right to choose to and choose to not get an abortion.
There are fanatical pro-lifers that have decided it is okay to murder doctors that perform abortions. So murdering a living, breathing doctor who is helping a woman exercise her right to choose is okay, but having an abortion is not? There is something wrong there.
Just because we keep abortion legal does not mean that anyone has to have one, it just means you can have one if you want to or need to. It comes down to one thing – only I should be allowed to make the decisions about my body! The government and the church need to stay the hell out of my uterus (and the rest of my body for that matter)! I am a mother and I am still Pro-Choice. Having had my own children has not changed that for me. I have always known I wanted to have children, but I can tell you with 100% certainty that if I had gotten pregnant before I was married and ready to be a mother, I would have exercised my right to choose.
I leave you with one last thing to think about that comes from a bumper sticker I had on my car when I was in college: if you can’t trust me with a choice, then how can you trust me with a child?